Sunday, July 29, 2012

Emotional Gym

WORKOUTS IN THE EMOTIONAL GYM 
Times of India - 29th July 2012

·         Start with 10 minutes of mental jogging. Let all thoughts crowd your mind.
·         Slow down. Indulge in positive emotional visualisation.
·          Laugh, relax and meditate
·         Breathe in and breathe out for 15 minutes every day
·         Do not allow your mind to get trapped in re-running past events or worrying about the future
·         Try some controlled day dreaming
·         Experiment with creative problem solving exercises for confidence
·         Take time out each day to notice and appreciate what you have and the beauty around you
·         Be an optimist — always focus on what you can do and expect positive outcomes 

PRESSURES THAT BOG YOU DOWN 

·        Negative self-talk
·        Unrealistic expectations from self and others
·        Excessively demanding jobs, workaholism, lack of social support
·        Lack of time management
·        Substance abuse 

Saturday, July 21, 2012

CAN YOUR MONEY PERSONALITY BE A PROBLEM?


CAN YOUR MONEY PERSONALITY BE A PROBLEM?

Economic Times - 16th July 2012.

When it comes to spending and saving, find out if your feral instincts can pose a problem for you. Also learn what you can do to improve your financial behaviour.


TIGER: Aggressive Endowed with daring and passion, you bring these traits into your monetary dealings. So, be it spending or investing, you have a high risk appetite and go overboard, oblivious of your financial status or consequences. Armed with credit cards, you indulge in buying sprees, and invest in risky stocks.
What should you do? 
• At the beginning of the month, keep aside a certain sum for saving.

• Limit your credit cards to one or two. Go shopping with a list, and stick to it.

• Think long term. Consider your need for an item before you buy, and your goals and returns before you invest.


SQUIRREL: Conservative In tandem with the furry creature’s traits, you squirrel away funds. Intent on saving and don’t spend out of line, but most of your money is either at home or in a savings bank account. You don’t invest in the right avenues to make your money grow. So, while you may have the money to meet some of your minor, short-term goals, you may not be able to rake in enough for longterm needs, or fend off inflation.
What should you do? 
• Keep six months’ expenses for emergencies and invest the remaining amount.

• Start by opening a recurring deposit. If equity scares you, pick mutual funds, which hedge the risk, but let your money grow.


CAT: Fickle Your inconsistency can be your undoing. You do not know which instrument is good for you and, frankly, couldn’t be bothered. You can’t stick to a plan, or stay with an investment for long. So, you invest in a Ulip without considering its utility and surrender it before its lock-in period to pick an endowment plan. You shift your savings account to another bank to notch the extra 1% interest. You lose money all the time.
What should you do? 
• Make a list of your financial goals and if you’re tempted to try a new investment, think if it will get you the money you need.

• Calculate the money you lose in a year to skittishness. It can be a big deterrent.


SLOTH BEAR: Sluggish This category is a magnet for most people. You are informed enough about financial instruments, but do little to invest. You realise your insurance premium is due, but don’t bother to check or pay on time. You know you should invest the money in your savings account, but don’t. You procrastinate and are lazy about your finances.
What should you do? 
• Keep separate files for all your financial transactions—bank accounts, insurance plans, mutual funds. Spare one day at the start of a month to update these.

• Link your premium payments with ECS, so that they are deducted automatically.

• Pay bills, etc, through Net banking

Friday, June 22, 2012

Happy Life....tips from 90 year young :)


Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio .

Mail from : Vaishnavi Ramesh 

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 42 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

25. Always choose life.

26. Forgive everyone everything.

27. What other people think of you is none of your business.

28. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

30. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does

31. Believe in miracles.

32. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

33. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

34. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

35. Your children get only one childhood.

36. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

37. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

38. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

39. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

40. The best is yet to come...

41. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

42. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."


Hav A Nice Day!!

Friday, May 11, 2012

Great Tips from Robin Sharma....


Great Tips for Robin Sharma....


I’m sitting on an airplane thinking about what the best performers and most successful people do to continually outperform everyone around them.
As we enter what I hope will be the single best year of your life yet, I’ve come up with 35 Tips that I invite you to concentrate on. Share these tips, reflect on then, post them where you can see them – and allow them to infuse your mindset:
  1. Remember that the quality of your life is determined by the quality of your thoughts.
  2. Keep the promises you make to others – and to yourself.
  3. The project that most scares you is the project you need to do first.
  4. Small daily improvements are the key to staggering long-term results.
  5. Stop being busy being busy. This New Year, clean out the distractions from your work+life and devote to a monomaniacal focus on the few things that matter.
  6. Read “The War of Art”.
  7. Watch “The Fighter”.
  8. In a world where technology is causing some of us to forget how to act human, become the politest person you know.
  9. Remember that all great ideas were first ridiculed.
  10. Remember that critics are dreamers gone scared.
  11. Be “Apple-Like” in your obsession with getting the details right.
  12. Take 60 minutes every weekend to craft a blueprint for the coming seven days. As Saul Bellow once said: “A plan relieves you of the torment of choice.”
  13. Release your need to be liked this New Year. You can’t be a visionary if you long to be liked.
  14. Disrupt or be disrupted.
  15. Hire a personal trainer to get you into the best shape of your life. Superstars focus on the value they receive versus the cost of the service.
  16. Give your teammates, customers and family one of the greatest gifts of all: the gift of your attention (and presence).
  17. Every morning ask yourself: “How may I best serve the most people?”
  18. Every night ask yourself: “What 5 good things happened to me this day?”
  19. Don’t waste your most valuable hours (the morning) doing low value work.
  20. Leave every project you touch at work better than you found it.
  21. Your job is not just to work. Your job is to leave a trail of leaders behind you.
  22. A job is not “just a job”. Every job is a gorgeous vehicle to express your gifts and talents – and to model exceptionalism for all around you.
  23. Fears unfaced become your limits.
  24. Get up at 5 am and take 60 minutes to prepare your mind, body, emotions and spirit to be remarkable during the hours that follow. Being a superstar is not the domain of the gifted but the prepared.
  25. Write love letters to your family.
  26. Smile at strangers.
  27. Drink more water.
  28. Keep a journal. Your life’s story is worth recording.
  29. Do more than you’re paid to do and do work that leaves your teammates breathless.
  30. Leave your ego at the door every morning.
  31. Set 5 daily goals every morning. These small wins will lead to nearly 2000 little victories by the end of the year.
  32. Say “please” and “thank you”.
  33. Remember the secret to happiness is doing work that matters and being an instrument of service.
  34. Don’t be the richest person in the graveyard. Health is wealth.
  35. Life’s short. The greatest risk is risk-less living. And settling for average.
I genuinely wish you the best year of your life.
Stay Great

Thursday, May 10, 2012

24 teachers of Dattatreya....


Dattatreya mentioned the names of his twenty-four Gurus and spoke of the wisdom that he had learnt from each.
Dattatreya said: “The names of my twenty-four teachers are:
1. Earth
2. Water
3. Air
4. Fire
5. Sky
6. Moon
7. Sun
8. Pigeon
9. Python
10. Ocean
11. Moth
12. Honey-gatherer
13. Bee
14. Elephant
15. Deer
16. Fish
17. Dancing girl Pingala
18. Raven
19. Child
20. Maiden
21. Serpent
22. Arrow-maker
23. Spider
24. Beetle
1. I have learnt patience and doing good to others from the earth, for it endures every injury that man commits on its surface and yet it does him good by producing crops, trees, etc.
2. From water I have learnt the quality of purity. Just as the pure water cleanses others, so also the sage, who is pure and free from selfishness, lust, egoism, anger, greed, etc., purifies all those who come in contact with him.
3. The air is always moving through various objects, but it never gets attached to anyone of them; so I have learnt from the air to be without attachment, though I move with many people in- this world.
4. Just as fire burns bright, so also the sage should be glowing with the splendour of his knowledge and Tapas.
5. The air, the stars, the clouds, etc., are all contained in the sky, but the sky does not come in contact with any of them. I have learnt from the sky that the Atma is all-pervading and yet it has no contact with any object.
6. The moon is in itself always complete, but appears to decrease or increase, on account of the varying shadow of the earth upon the moon. I have learnt from this that the Atma is always perfect and changeless and that it is only the Upadhis or limiting adjuncts that cast shadows upon it.
7. Just as the sun, reflected in various pots of water, appears as so many different reflections, so also, Brahman appears different because of the Upadhis (bodies) caused by its reflection through the mind. This is the lesson I have learnt from the sun.
8. I once saw a pair of pigeons with their young birds. A fowler spread a net and caught the young birds. The mother pigeon was very much attached to her children. She did not care to live, so she fell into the net and was caught. The male pigeon was attached to the female pigeon, so he also fell into the net and was caught. From this I learnt that attachment was the cause of bondage.
9. The python does not move about for its food. It remains contented with whatever it gets and lies in one place. From this I have learnt to be unmindful of food and to be contented with whatever I get to eat (Ajahara Vritti).
10. Just as the ocean remains unmoved even though hundreds of rivers fall into it, so also, the wise man should remain unmoved among all sorts of temptations, difficulties and troubles. This is the lesson I have learnt from the ocean.
11. Just as the moth, being enamoured of the brilliance of the fire, falls into it and is burnt up, so also, a passionate man who falls in love with a beautiful girl comes to grief. To control the sense of sight and to fix the mind on the Self is the lesson I have learnt from the moth.
12. Just as black bee sucks the honey from different flowers and does not suck it from only one flower, so also I take only a little food from one house and a little from another house and thus appease my hunger (Madhukari Bhiksha or Madhukari Vritti). I am not a burden on the householder.
13. Bees collect honey with great trouble, but a hunter comes and takes the honey easily. Even so, people hoard up wealth and other things with great difficulty, but they have to leave them all at once and depart when the Lord of Death takes hold of them. From this I have learnt the lesson that it is useless to hoard things.
14. The male elephant, blinded by lust, falls into a pit covered over with grass, even at the sight of a paper-made female elephant. It gets caught, enchained and tortured by the goad. Even so, passionate men fall in the traps of women and come to grief. Therefore, one should destroy lust. This is the lesson I have learnt from the elephant.
15. The deer is enticed and trapped by the hunter through its love of music. Even so, a man is attracted by the music of women of loose character and brought to destruction. One should never listen to lewd songs. This is the lesson I have learnt from the deer.
16. Just as a fish that is covetous of food falls an easy victim to the bait, so also, the man who is greedy of food, who allows his sense of taste to overpower him, loses his independence and easily gets ruined. The greed for food must therefore be destroyed. It is the lesson that I have learnt from the fish.
17. There was a dancing girl named Pingala in the town of Videha. She was tired of looking out for customers one night. She became hopeless. Then she decided to remain content with what she had and then she had sound sleep. I have learnt from that fallen woman the lesson that the abandonment of hope leads to contentment.
18. A raven picked up a piece of flesh. It was pursued and beaten by other birds. It dropped the piece of flesh and attained peace and rest. From this I have learnt the lesson that a man in the world undergoes all sorts of troubles and miseries when he runs after sensual pleasures and that he becomes as happy as the bird when he abandons the sensual pleasures.
19. The child who sucks milk is free from all cares, worries and anxieties, and is always cheerful. I have learnt the virtue of cheerfulness from the child.
20. The parents of a young girl had gone in search of a proper bridegroom for her. The girl was alone in the house. During the absence of the parents, a party of people came to the house to see her on a similar mission. She received the party herself. She went inside to husk the paddy. While she was husking, the glass bangles on both hands made a tremendous jingling noise. The wise girl reflected thus: “The party will detect, by the noise of the bangles, that I am husking the paddy myself and that my family is too poor to engage others to get the work done. Let me break all my bangles except two on each hand”. Accordingly, she broke all the bangles except two on each hand. Even those two bangles created much noise. She broke one more bangle in each hand. There was no further noise though she continued husking. I have learnt from the girl’s experience the following:—Living among many would create discord, disturbance, dispute and quarrel. Even among two persons, there might be unnecessary words or strife. The ascetic or the Sannyasin should remain alone in solitude.
21. A serpent does not build its hole. It dwells in the holes dug out by others. Even so, an ascetic or a Sannyasin should not build a home for himself He should live in the caves and temples built by others. This is the lesson that I have learnt from the snake.
22. The mind of an arrow-maker was once wholly engrossed in sharpening and straightening an arrow. While he was thus engaged, a king passed before his shop with his whole retinue. After some time, a man came to the artisan and asked him whether the king had passed by his shop. The artisan replied that he had not noticed anything. The fact was that the artisan’s mind had been so solely absorbed in his work that he had not known the king’s passing before his shop. I have learnt from the artisan the quality of intense concentration of mind.
23. The spider pours out of its mouth long threads and weaves them into cobwebs. It gets itself entangled in the net of its own making. Even so, man makes a net of his own ideas and gets entangled in it. The wise man should therefore abandon all worldly thoughts and think of Brahman only. This is the lesson I have learnt from the spider.
24. The Bhringi or the beetle catches hold of a worm, puts it in its nest and gives it a sting. The poor worm, always fearing the return of the beetle and the sting, and thinking constantly of the beetle, becomes a beetle itself. Whatever form a man constantly thinks of, he attains in course of time. As a man thinks, so he becomes. I have learnt from the beetle and the worm to turn myself into Atma by contemplating constantly on It and thus to give up all attachment to the body and attain Moksha or liberation”.
King Yadu was highly impressed by the teachings of Dattatreya. He abandoned the world and practised constant meditation on the Self.
Dattatreya was absolutely free from intolerance or prejudice of any kind. He learnt wisdom from whatever source it came. All seekers after wisdom should follow the example of Dattatreya.

Saturday, March 17, 2012

Lessons from Rahul Dravid 2

from Economic Times 11th March 2012.


6 Traits for Everyone at Workplace


 K Sudarshan Managing Partner, EMA Partners International, India 


  • Team Man Dravid, who did everything asked of him, was the quintessential team man.
    •  Takeaway If you have team’s interests, your peers will respect you for what you are and you will grow with your team.
  • Talent Minus Attitude Dravid, superbly talented, never had an attitude. That’s why perhaps he had such a long and illustrious career. 
    • Takeaway Talent doesn’t justify brash behaviour with colleagues and/or customers. Without an attitude you are valuable for longer.
  • Personal Values Dravid’s integrity and behaviour, on and off the field, were irreproachable.
    • Takeaway Great performers lose their way because of personal failings. Ethics and values are a must for longterm success. 
  • Work Ethic Dravid gave 100% every time he stepped on the field. He did his homework.
    • Takeaway Want to excel? Work hard at being ready. Motivate yourself.
  • Patience Patience and temperament are the greatest allies for a Test match batsman and Dravid had them in abundance. 
    • Takeaway Getting swayed by quarterly results is a rash shot. Don’t sacrifice longterm goals for quarter-on-quarter glory.
  • Conformist Dravid played by the rules. That worked for him as a player, but not as a leader. He probably lacked the X factor. 
    • Takeaway When you pick corporate leaders, look beyond talent and performance. A magnificent performer, a great team man, a fine human being may not make a good leader. 

Lessons from Rahul Dravid

From Economic Times 11th March 2012

He’s Retired... Lessons from Rahul Dravid

Two corporate headhunters deconstruct a great cricketing career for executives


3 Learnings for 3 Levels R Suresh Managing Director, Stanton Chase India 

For Entry-Level Executives: Rahul Dravid is more technique than talent. He is a disciplinarian who came first to any practice session and left last, and didn’t miss coaching. Dravid idolised Sunil Gavaskar, another master technician. Dravid in his earliest days imbibed from his coach and his idol that patience, staying at the wicket and a work-horse like approach was the sure-shot way to sustain initial success. The lessons for entry-level corporate executives are clear: it takes a lot of learning and honing the ‘fundamentals’ of the domain, for an expert to emerge. Dravid also stands for fitness and multi-skilling. They make you more valuable to your employer. A junior manager should think, Dravid kept wickets for India; he needn’t have developed that skill. 

For Middle-management: Early successes spurred Dravid to greater dedication. He went to master newer abilities — the square cut of a turning ball, the glance off the pads of an inswinging delivery and the pull shot along the ground. His success made him more grounded. He adapted to ODIs. But still maintained an unassuming profile. He never minded playing second-fiddle in any long partnership. The takeaways to corporate managers in the middle to senior levels are plenty. Build on pilot success, each milestone only spells a higher bar for the next, no celebration, in fact no declaration of successes even. And above all partnerships, peer-group respect and selflessness. Dravid put his team first always, but he still ended up as the second-highest run-getter of all times.

 For Leadership Executives: Dravid failed as a captain. The lowest point was the India’s ignominious early exit from the 2007 World Cup. He was sacked as a captain, but he still wrote a letter to BCCI saying he didn’t want to continue. He was removed as a captain by his IPL team owner Vijay Mallya. Dravid continued to perform as a player. He showed grit and determination not to let his team, its owners and the reputation down. He wasn’t made to be an all-guns-blazing leader his successor Dhoni turned out be. The lesson for corporate leaders? No matter how well prepared and competent you are, circumstances may give you a rough time. It is the ability to rebound and flourish again that determines the ultimate winner.