http://www.speakingtree.in/spiritual-articles/new-age/what-you-resist-persists of Deepak Chopra
Here are some guidelines for learning how to negotiate, because I sense that may you have lost the skill —
and the will — but also that you have to be the one to make the first move:
1. Stop blaming the other side
2. Respect the other side’s position
3. Take seriously the fact that the other person could be just as right about life as you are
4. Take responsibility for your side of the disagreement, and if you can, take responsibility for more than
your share. Bend over to be generous
5. Work from points of agreement
6. Only address issues when both parties feel good. Don’t negotiate when secretly you are just arguing
and trying to win
7. Don’t be competitive. This isn’t about you winning and her losing. When a relationship suffers, nobody
wins
8. Listen and learn
9. Call in an impartial mediator
10. When there are moments to be close physically or emotionally, don’t let them pass you by
If you want to take this whole thing seriously, sit down with these 10 points and a piece of paper. Write down specifically how you intend to act on each one. Once your list is complete, consult it every day and check off what you have accomplished. No check marks means no progress. I know that readers will be struck, unfortunately, by your tone of righteous smugness — all the good is on your side,
Here are some guidelines for learning how to negotiate, because I sense that may you have lost the skill —
and the will — but also that you have to be the one to make the first move:
1. Stop blaming the other side
2. Respect the other side’s position
3. Take seriously the fact that the other person could be just as right about life as you are
4. Take responsibility for your side of the disagreement, and if you can, take responsibility for more than
your share. Bend over to be generous
5. Work from points of agreement
6. Only address issues when both parties feel good. Don’t negotiate when secretly you are just arguing
and trying to win
7. Don’t be competitive. This isn’t about you winning and her losing. When a relationship suffers, nobody
wins
8. Listen and learn
9. Call in an impartial mediator
10. When there are moments to be close physically or emotionally, don’t let them pass you by
If you want to take this whole thing seriously, sit down with these 10 points and a piece of paper. Write down specifically how you intend to act on each one. Once your list is complete, consult it every day and check off what you have accomplished. No check marks means no progress. I know that readers will be struck, unfortunately, by your tone of righteous smugness — all the good is on your side,
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