Coach V/s Manager

http://www.tlnt.com/2013/06/25/5-coaching-skills-that-every-manager-needs-to-have/

• Coaches take an “Ask vs. Tell” approach. Don’t tell the employee what to do, instead ask powerful questions. This allows the employee to create their own solutions. When they go through the thought process to get to resolution, they are much more bought-in — it’s their idea!
• Coaches focus on the employee vs. the task — it’s about their development.
• Coaching is not about “fixing” anyone. Again, it’s about their development and facilitating the learning process.
• Coaches set up a clear accountability structure for action and outcomes. It helps keep the employee focused on achieving the desired goals.
• Coaching is something that can/should happen as needed and in-the-moment, which is the best way for learning to occur. It’s a great way to reinforce what may have been learned in the classroom by capitalizing on those on-the-job learning experiences.

Acting more like a coach

So how can a Manager behave more like a Coach?

1. Ask good questions to enable the process.
2. Meet the employee where they are.
3. Guide the conversation (through questions, not directives) to a mutual agreement of the priorities of development.
4. Ensure that the feedback information is heard and understood by the employee. Again, asking clarifying questions is the best way to do this.
5. Do your part to support the employee through a shared commitment to their goals, responsibilities and action steps.

Coaching = Effective Conversations

What makes a conversation “effective”? It’s about a dialogue (asking), not a monologue (telling). The best coaching questions are:

• Open-ended;
• Focused on useful outcomes; and,
• Non-judgmental (avoid asking “why?”).

Here are some examples of good open-ended questions compared to the close-ended version:

Open-ended/  Inviting Questions	Close-ended/  Evaluative Questions
What is the status on “x”?	Are you finished yet?
How can I help you?	Do you have a problem?
Can you tell me about that error?	Did you make that mistake?
	Will this really solve the problem?
Walk me through your thought process?	What made you think that was a good idea?
What other approaches might you take next time?	That’s clear enough, isn’t it?/ Didn’t I go over this already?
How are your emotions influencing your perception of the situation?	Why didn’t you do “x”?